Once you have selected a script to record for your for self hypnosis session, think about how to use your voice properly. Hypnosis does not make someone more suggestible, it does however, make them more responsive to nonverbal communications. And, that means that how you say something is almost as important as what you say.
We have all seen someone shake their heads “no” while they said “yes”. There were two messages going on at once. That simply means that the person was of two minds in his or her response. She or he was nonverbally and unconsciously expressing an internal conflict. For example, Joe may be so tired that he has no enthusiasm for going to Sally’s party, but he has been looking forward to it for a while and wants to go as well.
So, what has this got to do with making self hypnosis effective?
A suggestion spoken with uncertainty will be ineffective. There are two messages in the same sentence: the words suggest “yes” but the voice says, “no”. The unconscious mind will reject the suggestion.
Another thing to remember about making a suggestion is to respect oneself and one’s unconscious mind.
Imagine for a moment that someone makes a demand with a harsh and critical tone of voice. Is your first response, “Sure, I’d be glad to help out”? My first response is the opposite. The same is true of your unconscious mind. So, a harsh demanding style of giving yourself suggestions is likely going to be ineffective. This is one reason why harshly critical self talk is ineffective.
Since someone in hypnosis is responding to nonverbal messages so strongly, saying something like, “You remember all that you study, and make good grades on all your tests” will tend to be ineffective if spoken in a timid and uncertain tone of voice.
Hint: give yourself suggestions confidently, as if you totally believe what you are saying.
Many people believe that a monotone is best for giving suggestions, but projecting confidence through voice tone is much more effective. And, so is making the words sound like their meaning. For example, say the word “excitement” aloud in a monotone, and notice its effect on yourself. Then say it again in an excited tone of voice, and notice how you respond. Which way has more impact?
You may notice that professionals use a different tone of voice while conducting a hypnosis session with a client. Typically, they will slow down a bit, allow the voice to become soothing, and deeper. They speak in a confident manner, and many will user their voice to squeeze a bit more power from each of their words by making the words sound like their meaning. Doesn’t it make sense that someone saying the word “relax” would get a more profound response by saying it in a slow and relaxed way?
Tip number 4½: use your voice like a professional hypnotherapist when giving yourself suggestions in self hypnosis.